When we think about grandchildren, we naturally want to protect them from negative consequences.
We don't want them to be disappointed.
We are heartbroken if they fail.
We certainly don't want them to suffer.
Yet Parashat Re'eh opens with one of the Torah's most fundamental lessons:
Our choices matter.
"See, this day I place before you blessing and curse."
The Torah isn't trying to frighten us.
It's teaching us that our decisions shape our lives.
Many of us grew up with consequences that were immediate and external. A sharp word to a parent or teacher often resulted in a swift punishment. Whether or not that was always the best approach, the connection between behavior and consequence was clear.
Today, many children are raised differently. Rather than punishment, they may be encouraged to pause, reflect, repair, and understand the impact of their choices.
There is wisdom in that.
But perhaps the deeper question for grandparents is not how we discipline.
It is how we help our grandchildren recognize that every choice has consequences.
Not because we want them to be afraid.
Because we want them to become thoughtful.
One of the greatest gifts grandparents can offer is perspective.
We have lived long enough to see that the small choices we make, day after day, shape the kind of people we become.
Kindness creates stronger relationships.
Honesty builds trust.
Generosity enriches communities.
Gratitude changes the way we experience life.
The Torah calls these blessing.
Not because God is keeping score, but because these choices naturally lead us toward a fuller, richer life.
How can we share the power of choice?
Joyful. Share a story about a small choice that unexpectedly led to a great blessing in your life.
Intentional. When a grandchild faces a consequence this week, resist the urge to rescue immediately. Help them think through what happened and what they might choose next time.
Connection. Ask your grandchild, "Can you think of a choice you made that turned out better than you expected?"
Wishing you a Shabbat of joyful, intentional connection,
Rabbanit Sharona Hassan
Founder of Grand Plan
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